In this bonus episode, Jessica and Kelly tackle a topic that perfectly closes out April’s theme of energy and capacity — values alignment. With five Thursdays in the month, the sisters decided to make good use of the extra week by walking through their free April download together: the two-part values questionnaire, Are You Living Your Values or Someone Else’s?
Jessica and Kelly fill out the questionnaire in real time, getting honest about which parts of their identities feel genuinely theirs versus which ones feel like performance. From Jessica sitting alone on the bleachers at Dominic’s baseball game (AirPod in, Audible playing) to Kelly’s ongoing work to stop managing her kids and just be with them, this episode is a refreshing reminder that alignment isn’t about perfection — it’s about honesty.
They walk through all five reflection questions and five practical tips for living more in line with what actually matters to you, including why the difference between guilt and misalignment is one of the most important distinctions you can make.
What You’ll Hear:
Part One — The Values Questionnaire
Writing five things that feel like core parts of your identity
Asking yourself: is this genuinely mine, or is this who someone else needs me to be? (Mine vs. Performing)
Which of your values lights you up — and which ones feel like weight?
What would you do differently this week if you stopped performing and started living?
One thing you keep saying yes to that a more aligned version of you would say no
Part Two — Five Tips for Living More Aligned
Start with one small no
Make your values visible
Use the values filter before you commit
Notice the difference between guilt and misalignment
Give yourself permission for your values to evolve